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Negative Inspiration + Silver Linings

by | How to Journal

While it’s a cliché that the industrious among us make lemonade when handed lemons, clichés exist for a reason: they’re accurate.

So let’s talk about making lemonade.

I won’t patronize you with vapid ramblings about “positive thinking” or tell you to turn your frown upside down. We’re both smarter than that. Musings from Psych 101 are trite and irritating at best. So let’s be honest.

Sometimes life just sucks.

Sometimes bad stuff happens to good people. Sometimes that good people is you.

Promising relationships fail, money evaporates, best friends stab you in the back, jobs disappear. The board of directors turns down your raise the same day you suddenly need a root canal. Roommates turn into knife-brandishing psychos who steal your car and sell your stereo for drug money.

Life isn’t fair.

These unfortunate situations range from inconvenient to downright traumatic. Setbacks hurt. So it’s okay to be angry, to feel slighted, to grieve a loss. To shake your fists at the sky and wail, “Why me?!”

But the beauty of being a resilient, journal-wielding human being is that those emotional outbursts are not the end of your story.

They’re just the beginning.

Venting in the Present Tense

When we’re done nursing a broken heart or a busted ego, there’s almost always a shred of good we can seek in the wreckage as a consolation prize. You know, a few lemons to make some lemonade.

But before you go digging around for that citrus juicer, it’s essential to fully indulge the grieving or venting process. It’s no use to pretend everything is hunky dory straight from the break-up or the lay-off. That’s just denial.

We have to process our feelings in order to heal and move on. Anything less is a cover-up. If you don’t deal with the emotions now, they’ll simply pop up later, at a less convenient time. If you’ve got to grieve, get pissed, or get a root canal, then there’s no time like the present.

Once we’re all cried-out and ready to start moving forward, journaling about the potential benefits of any situation can help us grow at lightning speed, zooming forward and leaving the broken past behind us.

Turbo-charge Your Healing with Journaling

Journaling is the key to turbo-charged healing. Writing is essential through the whole process — the grief or the anger, the acute trauma, the slow healing, and the burst of forward growth that comes surely on the heels of all that pain.

Our journals provide a sounding board that never answers back, never lets us down, and always provides written proof of our growth and resiliency.

Humans aren’t always very good at handling other people’s emotions. Witnessing another’s intense fear or pain often makes us uncomfortable, which means you can’t always get the exact support you need from those around you. People are flawed. But we can always turn to our journals and vent, cry on the page, craft a hit-list, or compile a litany of reasons why we’re justified.

Journaling Your Way Forward

When you’re ready to look forward a little bit, all you need is a tiny shred of willingness to consider getting over yourself. As I talk about in the latest Journaling Saves Podcast, Inspiration in All the Wrong Places, we humans can be very attached to our pain. We wear it like a badge, so everyone knows What We’ve Been Through.

While this mentality is often warranted and sometimes necessary, it’s also dangerous. Once in victim mode, it’s difficult to let go of that attention, the sympathy, the “story” that gives a reason for us being bitter or stuck. We wallow. We sulk. We throw a pity party and invite everyone we know.

If you can become willing to let go of that story a little, put down the violin long enough to take a deep breath, it’ll get easier to consider positive outcomes. You can start small, and see how that feels.

I’ve lost my job, but I get to sleep-in every day. Better yet, I don’t have to wear those damn khakis anymore. Maybe your car died, but now you’ve got an excuse to ride the bicycle that’s been languishing in the garage. (You’ve been meaning to get more exercise, anyway.)

These tiny concessions open the door to greater possibilities. They help you wrench free from the attachment to mourning. They brighten up your world view and open doors you didn’t even know existed.

Next time you find yourself at the bitter end of a thankless situation, get out your journal and start the process of healing. Detail your gripes. When you’re ready, look at a few easy details about what might work out in your benefit. Let those details inspire you to entertain bigger and better possibilities.

My freedom from alarm clocks and khakis soon grows into the excitement that I’m free to change my career path. Liberated from your broken-down car, you meet your future life partner on the bike path. Instant lemonade: just add water.

Who knows what tomorrow might bring. Those silver linings are just starting to shine through.

Yours in journaling,


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