In Memory of Stephanie

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I received an email this week that one of our fellow journalers passed away on Saturday. Her name was Stephanie and I want to tell you a little bit about her because she had a big impact on me.

Stephanie was one of the earliest and most active readers of this web site. She often sent me encouraging emails telling me how much she appreciated me and the work I was doing. She told me she’d started writing again because of me. There is no greater gift in the world than for me to hear those words.

We bonded over our love of Blueline notebooks, which she ordered after I recommended them. Her frequent love notes often brought tears to my eyes.

The most incredible part is that during this time of selfless support, Stephanie was very ill. She had had a difficult couple of years as one affliction after another ravaged her body.

I had no idea she was sick until her husband notified me of her passing. That’s the type of person Stephanie was – she would offer love and support without drawing attention to herself or what she was going through.

Her husband Bill told me that Stephanie donated her organs, and though many of her organs were damaged beyond usefulness, the corneas of her eyes were healthy. As Bill said,

“Now, because of Stephanie, two sightless people will once again be able to see their loved ones, watch the sun rise and set, and see the beauty that is all around them. That is the type of person she was.”

I’ve been thinking about Stephanie a lot these past few days and the example she has set. I so often get wrapped up in my own Important Dramas and making sure I get the attention I feel I deserve. Yet here is someone who was so giving, without asking for anything in return, even when she was going through a painful time.

I am filled with overwhelming gratitude to Stephanie for the love and support she gave so freely, as well as this lesson she taught me.

Rest in peace, Stephanie. We will miss you.


  1. Bill Macomber

    Reading this tribute to Stephanie brought tears to my eyes. Kristin summed Stephanie up so well. She had an infectious smile and a hearty laugh. She loved without reservation and always put the other person first.
    I cared for her during her prolonged illnesses and though at times she became frustrated at lack of healing progress she remained her loving self.
    I had only 9 short years with Stephanie, but those years were the happiest of my life. I thank the holiest of the holy that she was gifted to me. We were truly a very happy couple.

  2. Leah

    Bill, my sympathies. I don’t know what to say… take care.

  3. Jennifer L

    Thank you for sharing about Stephanie. So sorry for your loss, Bill.

  4. Dawn Herring

    This post on Stephanie truly reveals how what we do with and for others really does make a difference, probably more than we know. Perhaps that is the legacy Stephanie has left behind.
    Thanks for sharing your relationship with her. It’s an encouragement to appreciate the people we have in our lives and not take them for granted.

    Be refreshed,
    Dawn Herring

  5. Kerry

    Oh, no. That’s so sad! I’m a bit choked up; I’m so sorry to hear news like this. I am so glad she was able to be involved in the world in such good ways though! It’s nice to hear… thank you for sharing, Kristin. Love to everyone all around, but special well wishes for you, Bill.

  6. Joni

    A touching story. We all hope to leave behind such an impression. Best wishes to you Bill. May you find comfort in your life and many memories of Stephanie to warm your way….

  7. Bill Macomber

    To each of you
    Thank you for sharing your kind and sympathetic words. Stephanie was one of a kind. I am so grateful to have shared my life with her. She can never be replaced. I am a better person for having known her.
    Though I have our dogs, the house is so quiet. I miss her smile, and her warm hugs. No matter where I go or what I do I feel that deep loneliness. Yet regardless of who I encounter, they share with me the love they had for Stephanie.
    I hope one day the loneliness will be gone, but never the beautiful memories.